Today is my fourth, in a list of four posts, of things that don’t define you.
If you are like most people, you may often feel the pressures of conforming to the standards of an ever changing world. While obvious trends, such as beauty and fashion, are always evolving, the standards of success are as well. In light of these trends, here are a few things that don’t have to define you
4.) Social Media Doesn’t Define You
Contrary to popular belief, it is okay to be disconnected from social media. As a matter of fact, it is a good thing!
A few days ago, my husband and I went to an amazing concert. The artists were engaging, the music was well performed…it was well worth the money! But as I scanned the audience, all I could see were phones lighting up the darkness. While some were filming footage of the concert, others were busy tweeting and live streaming. I honestly can’t say that I blame them. The concert was definitely worth sharing! But it occurred to me that although they were present at the concert, they weren’t present in the moment. The depth of the words and the beauty of the music was passing them by. A remarkable moment in time, never to be regained again.
This is too often true of our daily lives. How much time do we waste, either documenting what we are doing, instead of actually doing it, or surveying what others are doing, on social media? Could it be that we have an intrinsic desire to prove something to others. Do we somehow feel that we are defined by what we share on social media? I believe the answer is yes. After all, we spend so much time creating the perfect online presence. Heck, we even have tutorial videos on how to appear to be our “best selves”. Tilt camera upward for the best selfie angle. Apply filter “x” to have better complexion…etc. All for the approval of others.
Now, of course there are exceptions to every rule. Some people simply post for the fun of it and that’s great! If you don’t feel the need to post pictures for likes and re-shares, then I applaud you. You have discovered a wonderful secret. Social media, the approval of others, and the perfect profile will never satisfy you. It won’t bring you happiness and it was never meant to. However, disconnecting and enjoying life will.
My simple suggestion today is this, lets create a new formula for our lives. “Disconnect to experience. Experience to remember. Remember to share.” Sounds much more fulfilling to me. Don’t you agree?
Header image by Jeff Sheldon