If you are like most people, you may often feel the pressures of conforming to the standards of an ever changing world. While obvious trends, such as beauty and fashion, are always evolving, the standards of success are as well. In light of these trends here is my first, in a list of four posts, of things that don’t define you.
1.) The Clothes We Wear
Many of us spend hours sifting through racks of clothing, or surfing the web for the perfect items to complete our wardrobe. In a world that places so much emphasis on outer adornment, it is hard not to feel defined by our clothing. After all, our outer appearance is the first thing that people notice about us right? Well, yes and no. Clothing does influence a person’s initial perception of us. Status, income, and personality are often postulated based on one’s clothing. But have you ever stopped to ask yourself what you actually remember about people? I mean what really resonated with you? If you are like most people, demeanor and personality provide more of a lasting impact. We can meet someone, adore their outfit, and completely forget about them in the span of a few minutes. However, if we meet someone with a positive disposition or a kind spirit, we often file that away for future reference. Yes, we may notice their outfit, but it ultimately diminishes in important to us. Their personality is of far greater value. Hence the quote, “Beauty attracts the eye, but personality captures the heart.”
So yes, dress well, express yourself freely, but remember what is of greater value. For it is far better to focus on the infinite than the infinitesimal.
Header Image by Charisse Kenion